Epictetus · The Handbook
Chapter 14
If you want your children and your wife and your friends to live forever, you are a fool – you are wanting what is not up to you to be up to you, and what belongs to others to be yours. Likewise, if you want your slave to make no mistakes, you are an idiot – you are wanting badness not to be badness, but something else. But if you want to desire and not fail to get what you desire – that you can do. So practice what you can do.
ἐὰν θέλῃς τὰ τέκνα σου καὶ τὴν γυναῖκα καὶ τοὺς φίλους σου πάντοτε ζῆν, ἠλίθιος εἶ· τὰ γὰρ μὴ ἐπὶ σοὶ θέλεις ἐπὶ σοὶ εἶναι καὶ τὰ ἀλλότρια σὰ εἶναι. οὕτω κἂν τὸν παῖδα θέλῃς μὴ ἁμαρτάνειν, μωρὸς εἶ· θέλεις γὰρ τὴν κακίαν μὴ εἶναι κακίαν, ἀλλ’ ἄλλο τι. ἐὰν δὲ θέλῃς ὀρεγόμενος μὴ ἀποτυγχάνειν, τοῦτο δύνασαι. τοῦτο οὖν ἄσκει, ὃ δύνασαι.
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Each person’s master is whoever holds power over what that person wants or does not want – power to secure it or take it away. Whoever wants to be free, then, should neither want nor avoid anything that is in other people’s hands. Otherwise, he is bound to be a slave.
κύριος ἑκάστου ἐστὶν ὁ τῶν ὑπ’ ἐκείνου θελομένων ἢ μὴ θελομένων ἔχων τὴν ἐξουσίαν εἰς τὸ περιποιῆσαι ἢ ἀφελέσθαι. ὅστις οὖν ἐλεύθερος εἶναι βούλεται, μήτε θελέτω τι μήτε φευγέτω τι τῶν ἐπ’ ἄλλοις· εἰ δὲ μή, δουλεύειν ἀνάγκη.