Epictetus · The Handbook
Chapter 26
The will of nature can be learned from the things about which we do not disagree with one another. For example: when someone else’s slave boy breaks a cup, we are quick to say, “These things happen.” Understand, then, that when your own cup gets broken, you should be exactly as you were when the other man’s broke. Transfer the same principle to greater things. Someone else’s child has died, or his wife: there is no one who would not say, “That’s the human lot.” But when a man’s own child dies, immediately it’s “Oh no! How wretched I am!” We should remember how we feel when we hear the same thing about others.
τὸ βούλημα τῆς φύσεως καταμαθεῖν ἔστιν ἐξ ὧν οὐ διαφερόμεθα πρὸς ἀλλήλους. οἷον, ὅταν ἄλλου παιδάριον κατεάξῃ τὸ ποτήριον, πρόχειρον εὐθὺς λέγειν ὅτι «τῶν γινομένων ἐστίν.» ἴσθι οὖν, ὅτι, ὅταν καὶ τὸ σὸν κατεαγῇ, τοιοῦτον εἶναί σε δεῖ, ὁποῖον ὅτε καὶ τὸ τοῦ ἄλλου κατεάγη. οὕτω μετατίθει καὶ ἐπὶ τὰ μείζονα. τέκνον ἄλλου τέθνηκεν ἢ γυνή; οὐδείς ἐστιν ὃς οὐκ ἂν εἴποι ὅτι «ἀνθρώπινον·» ἀλλ’ ὅταν τὸ αὐτοῦ τινος ἀποθάνῃ, εὐθὺς «οἴμοι, τάλας ἐγώ.» ἐχρῆν δὲ μεμνῆσθαι, τί πάσχομεν περὶ ἄλλων αὐτὸ ἀκούσαντες.