Impulse

τῶν ὄντων τὰ μέν ἐστιν ἐφ’ ἡμῖν, τὰ δὲ οὐκ ἐφ’ ἡμῖν. ἐφ’ ἡμῖν μὲν ὑπόληψις, ὁρμή, ὄρεξις, ἔκκλισις καὶ ἑνὶ λόγῳ ὅσα ἡμέτερα ἔργα· οὐκ ἐφ’ ἡμῖν δὲ τὸ σῶμα, ἡ κτῆσις, δόξαι, ἀρχαὶ καὶ ἑνὶ λόγῳ ὅσα οὐχ ἡμέτερα ἔργα.

Some things are up to us, and some things are not up to us. Up to us are assumption, impulse, desire, aversion – in a word, everything that is our own doing. Not up to us are the body, possessions, reputation, public office – in a word, everything that is not our own doing.

ἆρον οὖν τὴν ἔκκλισιν ἀπὸ πάντων τῶν οὐκ ἐφ’ ἡμῖν καὶ μετάθες ἐπὶ τὰ παρὰ φύσιν τῶν ἐφ’ ἡμῖν. τὴν ὄρεξιν δὲ παντελῶς ἐπὶ τοῦ παρόντος ἄνελε· ἄν τε γὰρ ὀρέγῃ τῶν οὐκ ἐφ’ ἡμῖν τινος, ἀτυχεῖν ἀνάγκη τῶν τε ἐφ’ ἡμῖν, ὅσων ὀρέγεσθαι καλὸν ἄν, οὐδὲν οὐδέπω σοι πάρεστι. μόνῳ δὲ τῷ ὁρμᾶν καὶ ἀφορμᾶν χρῶ, κούφως μέντοι καὶ μεθ’ ὑπεξαιρέσεως καὶ ἀνειμένως.

Remove aversion, then, from everything that is not up to us, and transfer it to what is contrary to nature among the things that are up to us. And for now, do away with desire completely. For if you desire something not up to us, you are bound to be unfortunate – and of the things up to us, the ones it would be good to desire are not yet within your reach. Use only impulse and its opposite, and even these lightly, with reservation, and without straining.

ὅταν σέ τις κακῶς ποιῇ ἢ κακῶς λέγῃ, μέμνησο, ὅτι καθήκειν αὐτῷ οἰόμενος ποιεῖ ἢ λέγει. οὐχ οἷόν τε οὖν ἀκολουθεῖν αὐτὸν τῷ σοὶ φαινομένῳ, ἀλλὰ τῷ ἑαυτῷ, ὥστε, εἰ κακῶς αὐτῷ φαίνεται, ἐκεῖνος βλάπτεται, ὅστις καὶ ἐξηπάτηται. καὶ γὰρ τὸ ἀληθὲς συμπεπλεγμένον ἄν τις ὑπολάβῃ ψεῦδος, οὐ τὸ συμπεπλεγμένον βέβλαπται, ἀλλ’ ὁ ἐξαπατηθείς. ἀπὸ τούτων οὖν ὁρμώμενος πρᾴως ἕξεις πρὸς τὸν λοιδοροῦντα. ἐπιφθέγγου γὰρ ἐφ’ ἑκάστῳ ὅτι «ἔδοξεν αὐτῷ.»

When someone treats you badly or speaks badly of you, remember: he does it or says it thinking it is his duty. He cannot follow what appears right to you – only what appears right to him. So if it appears wrong to him, he is the one harmed, since he is also the one deceived. If someone takes a true conjunction to be false, the conjunction is not harmed – the one deceived is. Start from this, and you will be gentle with the person who insults you. Say, each time: “It seemed so to him.”

ὄρεξιν ἅπασαν ἦρκεν ἐξ ἑαυτοῦ· τὴν δ’ ἔκκλισιν εἰς μόνα τὰ παρὰ φύσιν τῶν ἐφ’ ἡμῖν μετατέθεικεν. ὁρμῇ πρὸς ἅπαντα ἀνειμένῃ χρῆται. ἂν ἠλίθιος ἢ ἀμαθὴς δοκῇ, οὐ πεφρόντικεν. ἐνί τε λόγῳ, ὡς ἐχθρὸν ἑαυτὸν παραφυλάσσει καὶ ἐπίβουλον.

He has removed all desire from himself, and has transferred aversion solely to what is contrary to nature among the things up to us. Toward everything, he keeps his impulse relaxed. If people think him stupid or ignorant, he does not care. In a word, he keeps watch on himself as on an enemy lying in ambush.